6 Tips that will make a difference to your Work Life Balance
6 Tips that will make a difference to your work life balance
Many of us are 'time poor', constantly rushing to juggle different commitments. Australia has fallen behind the rest of the developed world in trying to achieve a healthy balance between work and life outside work.
So what does work life balance even mean?
This is what Wikipedia defines work life balance as: Work–life balance is the term used to describe the balance that an individual needs between time allocated for work and other aspects of life. Areas of life other than work–life can be, but not limited to personal interests, family and social or leisure activities. The term ‘Work-Life Balance' is recent in origin, as it was first used in UK and US in the late 1970s and 1980s, respectively.
Now with Technology the 9 - 5pm working day has at most disappeared. This can be seen as a good thing as suddenly we all can start to work around our kids lives, our spouses life and we can take charge of where we spend our work time. This is seen from many people working from home, or slicing up their work days to fit in with school pick ups etc. We are now all more able to be flexible and effectively this is deemed as a better work life balance!
In reality though we are working longer hours than ever before and more stressed than ever before. With technology we are now able to be contacted 24 hours of the day. Many of us are either in burnout or heading towards burnout.
Burnout is a state of emotional and physical exhaustion that can occur after a long period of excessive or stressful work and from over committing yourself to work and to friends and family.
The 3 key features of burnout are:
a feeling of detachment from work or becoming cynical
reduced efficiency or lacking a sense of achievement
According to the Harvard Business Review 1 in 5 employees in the US are at risk of burnout and we are no different in Australia. Click here to read the article
What changes can we make?
So what can we do about it. There are many small changes that you can do daily that will help you to have more work life balance and avoid burnout.
Understanding what it means to be Balanced - Having a handle on aspects of your life eg work, family, me time, and not feeling like you are being pulled in every direction. This can be different for everyone.
Its important that you work out what that is for you and then write it down. If we don’t know what balance in our life looks like then we will never have it and we wont spot it when it turns up. Its extremely important and very powerful to define what it means to you, to write it down and then stick it up somewhere that you can see it daily.
Get up 15 minutes early everyday - I am a morning person so for me to get up at 5.30am is not a problem. But I have been taught a concept where you get up 15 minutes earlier than your day would normally start. So for me that would be 4.45am as my day starts at 5am.
What I har you say! Especially if you are one of the many that set your alarm only to hit the snooze button at least one or two times before getting out of bed each morning. The problem with this is it sets the mindset of a stressful day before you have even gotten out of bed.
Check out Mel Robbins 5 second rule you will never be the same again, best technique ever.
So when you get up 15 minutes earlier you are firstly changing a habit. Secondly that 15 minutes is yours. Your alone its no one else’s, you do YOU. So in that 15 minutes its important to set your mind for the day. You could meditate, you could do 15 mins of Yoga, its up to you. Here is what I do and suggest you do:
Have a glass of water and lemon.
Do 3 minutes of deep breathing - time yourself.
Write down 3-5 things your grateful for.
Map out a realistic day of the 3 things you MUST not need to get done, must get done.
Then your ready for your day
Let go of perfectionism - Perfectionism can start at a young age. It can often show itself as being an overachiever, at school, in sports or even in your first job. . It’s easier to maintain that perfectionist habit as a kid, but as you grow up, life gets more complicated. As you climb the ladder at work and as your family grows, your responsibilities stack on and before you know it your struggling and feeling burnt out and overwhelmed.
The key is to let go of perfectionism. Perfectionism is a habit that has been created over time. As life gets more expanded it’s very hard, both neurologically and psychologically, to keep that habit of perfection going. So the healthier option is to strive not for perfection, but for excellence.
Excellence can be maintained throughout your life. It’s your earnestness and courage in living your life that determines your excellence, and that’s the measuring stick that you should apply instead of perfection.
Just Say No - We all spend far too much of our time trying to be people pleaser’s. We end up saying yes to all this stuff that we don’t really want to do, we then resent things and people and so starts the merry go round of stress from saying Yes to the things and people you should say No too.
If you’re available 24/7 to your boss’s – with all due respect – increasingly loopy and unremitting demands, and you’re the kind of person who as a result gets overloaded, try harnessing the power of no.
If you tend to say yes without thinking when you’re asked to do something extra, take a few deep breaths and wait. Don’t answer straight away. Say you’ll get back to the person who is asking, then use that time to think clearly about whether to say yes or no. If you want to say yes, fine. But if you want to say no, say no and keep saying it. Don’t justify your actions or give excuses.
Remember you own your life, your the person in the the movie and you make the decisions. There is always a pay off and a reward so make sure you know truly what is important to you.
Get a Business or Personal Coach - But I cant afford it. I thought that. The truth is I couldn’t afford a coach yet Im so pleased I scrapped the money together as it pushed my business forward so much.
A coach will keep you accountable to your tasks, accountable to yourself and on track.
A coach can help you see your blind spots. Everyone, even the coach, has personal areas that are out of view or awareness until someone points them out. This can not be a family member it needs to be someone in a neutral space. A coach is the perfect person.
A coach can help you create your vision. Your coach can assist you in developing your plans for success based on your values, personal strengths, background and assets.
There are so many more reasons to hire a coach even if it is for a short time. Try it and see. Click here for free 15 mins coaching with me
Practice Yoga - Yes I know I am biased but I can see you all smiling and saying yes shes right.
Yoga brings you into your body. It grounds you and you feel your SELF.
Often in this busy chaotic life we are all leading we cant see the wood for the trees, we race around like mad people from appointment to appointment, we busy being busy and honestly often not really achieving that much.
Yoga brings you back down to earth. You stand or sit on that mat, breath, move your body and after 5 minutes you feel calm, together, capable and alert.
Try it via the Yoga with Amber App. There are classes to suit all levels and everyone.
Work life Balance is not really a thing its a goal to work towards. What that looks like is different for everybody. Find your way and then keep working on it.